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Pressie #4 - The NEW Brandy album! LOVE IT!!
(even though I already had the digital one, still loooove it!)
xoxo, Ms.Zindzi.
….GET READY ITS LOOOOONG….
For weeks (if not months) TT’s been continuously nagging me to get an outfit, preferably a dress. Now as much as I was really keen on buying a new outfit (’cause that’s what us shopaholics like best – SHOPPING!) my bday story never changed – ‘I’m not going anywhere for my birthday, I wanna stay in and sleep!’. That was my attitude since the day I found out I wasn’t gonna be going home to be with my family.
Eventually TT’s ‘You need an outfit’ turned into ‘I have a surprise for you’ so at this point you could imagine my anxiousness and elation. Conveniently, my tune changed. I no longer wanted to stay indoors and do nothing. Rather, I started looking forward to my BIG day.
Within the space of 2weeks my ’surprise’ turned into ‘dinner for 3′ (me, shazza and tt) which I really didn’t mind, because I would still get to dress up in my new outfit and be with 2 of the people I like best. So I wasn’t mad or disappointed, I actually thought that TT was just joking about there even being a surprise in the 1st place.
In attempt to make my dinner extra special and symbolic of the fact that this is ‘bye bye teens hello 20s’, I started my search for a sexy, mature, black dress, preferably strapless and body-con…I searched and searched but to no avail.
Eventually I found a dress that matched my ideal description to a T except for one tiny detail – It wasn’t black, it was red. Then I thought ‘Hmmmm, RED is SEXY!’ which made it PERFECT!! LOL!…Anxiously, I went into the store. Story of my life: one size was too small and one size bigger was too big. I couldn’t believe this was happening to me, this dress was my last resort, a perfectly NICE one at that!!!
But anyway, I’m persistent…So I tried the ‘too small’ size one more time and guess what?? It fit! Lol…I look so HOTT and SO SEXY!! I loved that dress so much…What’s the catch? Credit Crunch! I was broke and couldn’t get it at that time and soon after it sold out!! No one in this world was more upset than I was…
Anyway, I gave up and once again, I no longer felt up for the dinner and my B’day and Xmas and all the other December excitements.
Xmas day came to pass – that turned out alright….Finally the 29th rolled around and I found myself in Lewisham back on the dress hunt and panicking because to that very minute (a few minutes before my dinner) I still hadn’t found anything to wear.
I mean really, which girlie-female would not be frantic about not having an outfit for her own B’day dinner?? Urrrgggghhh!!
I phoned everyone I could think of and I moaned and moaned about not finding an outfit and not having anything to wear and about leaving Lewisham Shopping Centre empty handed and outfitless.
Instantly I felt depressed and heartbroken. Nonetheless I made my way back to TT’s house, selected a dress I brought from Luton just incase I hadn’t found anything new in London to wear, picked a pair of shoes, re-did my make-up, fixed my hair THEN I got dressed and was out the house and headed to the restaurant within 20 mins…
We finally got to the restaurant 2 hrs late…lol (Ok, that wasn’t really funny).
We met Shazza there as planned, we walked to our table….
Just as I was about to sit, in walked my guys Dessie, Tyreezzie and Yawie…I was stunned! I was in total shock for a good minute or so!! I mean, I had already made up my mind that it was gonna be just me, TT and Shazza…But no, the 3 guys added to my day, my smile was even bigger!!
A glass of white wine and a sip of Mojito later I was given yet another grand surprise…
Sharon covered my eyes and someone came up from behind and gave me a biiiiig kiss on the cheek….IT WAS MY JOE JOE!!! Just when I thought my B’day couldn’t get any better – Joe, Thompson and Melvin arrived!! I was in my element…and really happy to be around good folks!
The time to open presents came around and little did I know there was another big surprise in store – my mommy, my sister and my brother had sent TT two presents (a jewellery set and a nice framed picture) to give to me at my dinner. I felt a rush of emotions wasn’t sure if I should laugh or smile or just cry! I guess my teary-eyed and smile-on-face expression gave away the fusion of emotions…In addition I got a CD, a teddy-bear (I named him YAWIE), even more jewellery, a perfume set…
It’s not easy being me! But I LOVE IT!!!!! I felt like a princess, I felt loved and I felt oh so special…
I was laughing and smiling allllll night….
Thanks to Cynthia and Rita for phoning me up – Wish you guys could have made it to share all the excitement with me!! Kisses!
Being able to live to see another year is meant to be specially celebrated and thanks to my lovely friends and family my 20th birthday was very very special!
Thanks to everyone who came out to TigerTiger to celebrate my birthday with me, much thanks to the organisers TT, Shazza and my Mommy. I really appreciated all the FB wall posts and inbox messages, the text messages, the comment on my blog, thanks for all the beautiful presents and all the phone calls…
Thanks a million for making December 29th 2008 one to remember!
PS: I’m gonna add the pics from Xmas and my B’day later in the week.
Blessings…
xoxo, Ms.Zindzi
The month is turning out to be not so bad after all…so far that is!

Ms.Zindzi celebrating the 9th and 10th day of her month!
I am burnt out! WOOO! Im tired from going out 2 nights in a row. Monday, Shazza and I had the time of our lives at Liquid and then last night we went to a coach-party (YOUNI HOUSE) in Coventry. The rave was really live and I had mad fun! Ms.Zindzi really enjoyed herself. I even had my first glass of alcohol in over a year (not sure that was a good idea cause it went straight to my head!!! LOOOOL!) I danced like I never danced before, skanked to Funky & Bashment & Dancehall like it was the end of the world – the rave was well worth the money (and I did pay a lot!) The music was on-point, the ladies’ outfits & the Men’s swagger was at its best and even the GUYS were looking better than I had expected. The night was just great apart!! Coventry is actually not half bad, the area seemed really posh and the venues was BIG. L-Town has nothing on Coventry. I really don’t mind going to another rave there…
BUT…
The drive to and from the rave was helluh long but I thank God for the comfy and cosy coach that took us to and from. I had too much energy to sleep on the way to the rave but on the way back, I crashed! I was out cold for the entire journey back to L-Town. Speaking of cold, hmmmm….It was so cold last night. We both wore mini-dresses, we had to walk home and it was minus something degrees – NOT GOOD! How come we walked home? Because I spent my cab money to buy food for Sharon and I. That ain’t even the problem…Please believe I had to throw out the food, because we weren’t even allowed food on the coach. I WAS PISSED OFF!! But I didn’t let that keep me from getting some goooooooooooood rest. I slept like a baby and so did everyone else on the coach.
Did I mention that there was a fight at YOUNI HOUSE? You already know that whenever too many black young people are gathered together there is bound to be fights. Some guy got bottled.
So far December has brought me good days, bad days, clubbing and of course, good grades. And this is just day 10….I wonder what the rest of December has in store for me?
Miracles and Blessings, ppl.
xoxo, Ms.Zindzi.
I swear music is thee ultimate drug! I love it..
I woke up to what I thought was going to be the 3rd day of my worstest week ever…But little did I know…If you’re close to me you’d know how not-motivated I have been to go to my lessons this week because one of my modules (MarComs) is really turning me off! The mini assignments are making no sense to me, and I was absolutely frustrated. But after I opened-up about it to just about errrrbody I, woke up today feeling better, in good spirits, above the world and ready to take action and stop moaning over MarComs. I went right to my laptop, and wrote my lecturer an email asking for guidance and guess what? She replied! So next week I’m due to meet up with her and straighten out this whole blip. I woke up in the mood to do some serious cleaning, I guess that’s my way of feeling like I’m ridding my life of the old (negative energy) and opening up another day with the new (sunshine girl groove). I popped on some music and got right to it, and I’ll tell you what…I did more that clean, I rearranged my entire flat. I was grooving to the music, just having the time of my life. I guess that’s what happens when you’ve got a head full of optimism, heart full of love and a life filled with blessings!
Today was a good day and the music made it even better, I’ve been singing and humming all day. Shazza’a sitting next to me and she is over annoyed, cause she’s tryna study and I’m “making noise” AKA singing! LOL!
Miracles and Blessings readers! Miracles and Blessings from Emm Ess Dot Zindzi AKA Ms.Zindzi.
…Don’t you just love that song? I know, it’s over hot. I’m surprised the DJ didn’t play it last night…
Anyway my people, How have you guys been? Hmmm, I hope everything is blessed on your side and that you’re remembering to get enough rest and that you’re happy and healty! J
By the way, Did I mention that I bought the ‘I Am…Sasha Fierce’ album yesterday? Hmm, well yes I did and I’ll tell you what…I have no regrets. The album is hot from disc to disc (yes, its a double disc album!). I would advise anybody to buy it, especially all my single ladies! LOOOOL!
I’ve been overly busy and extremely tired especially with work and uni taking up about 6 of the 7 days of the week. It’s hard to keep my head above water sometimes and as a result I hardly get time to even visit my own blog. But never mind, ’cause I’m here now.
Last night I went out for the first time in WEEEEKSSSSS! Two of my friends celebrated their bdays and I wanted to show my support as per usual so I went out to the club with them. It was a good night, lots of energy, the outfits were hot and the vibe was just right. Right now I’m in the Social Learning Space at my uni and in a few minutes I’m about to pack up and head out to a meeting which should go own for about 3 hours or so. After that, Sharon and Titi and I are looking to head to our ‘Sweet Tuesday Escape’ AKA the cinema to watch Max Payne….So my night is all booked up. No time for nothing but ‘good times’.
Tonight is about smiling and being happy, no ones gonna break this Single Lady’s high!
PEEEEEACE Out!
Xoxo, Ms.Zindzi.
A lot of us ladies are open with our friends and family about the things we think we should be open about, I mean after all they are our family and our friends. We talk about many things that we probably would not talk about with a stranger or an acquaintance, and that’s natural. However, there are certain things that we, as women (and as humans), just like to keep to ourselves. Especially as it relates to our intimate relationships or any other aspect of our personal lives.
Maintaining the mystery gives people a chance to focus on you as a friend, as a business-woman, as a writer etc. I mean, really, who calls my phone and who I see, or who I go out with, or who I date, or where I go, is no one’s business but mine. Yes, on occasions I may open up to talk about it but only if I WANT TO. I pick and chose who I talk to and what I talk to them about and that is how I want things to be. Call me selfish but at the end of the day, no one should EXPECT me to tell them anything. I’m not just speaking for me, this can apply to anyone.
Like I have said before, I am open but I am very private at the same time. I try to keep it balanced. I think a healthy balance is always good.
It’s really silly, I think, when people especially girls (and I mean GIRLS) expect you to always tell them things. Life really shouldn’t be like that, a bit of mystery is good. And I’m not just dishing this out, I actually respect other’s privacy just the same. I have close female-friends, and there are just certain things we have never spoken about and probably never will. Sometimes its event the most obvious things that we’re not even trying to hide that we don’t talk about. If I were with Titi or Sharon and their phone rang, as long as the phone conversation did not result in them getting angry or crying, I would never think to ask them ‘Who was that?’ because I am VERY MUCH AWARE that that is none of my business and if they want me to know, they would openly say.
Privacy is instrumental to keeping our lives solid and it’s important for maintaining our sanity. So I’m suggesting that we keep a healthy balance ladies, I know the guys won’t have much of a problem because they aren’t as emotional as GIRLS can be.
xoxo, Ms.Zindzi.