So in March I flew over to NY and then onto Philly to spend time with my mommy and celebrate her birthday with her. Aside from spending time with her, catching up with old friends and family and just having a fun time, one of the other highlights of my trip was the sightseeing. I got to see New York in ways I have never seen in all the years I’ve been going over there. It was my first time in Philly so I did a bit of everything; shopping, dining and of course, sightseeing. So it was definitely my most enlightening trip to date. I had a blast! It was defo time very well spent. I will definitely be doing more of those! Check the pics below.
Well…Wonder no more. Ain’t my Momma fiiiiiine!
Love ya Momma!
So I have been giving serious consideration to joining the gym since I have a pot belly and extremely jiggly thighs. I’ve been calling around the gyms and weighing my options in terms of membership prices, perks and facilities. My main concern when I’m chosing the right gym is “Am I getting sufficient bang for my buck?” And I have my eye on Bannatyne’s Health Club because they offer a very large range of services and fcilities that I can use to my benefit as a new-gym-entusiast. LOL!
I’m trying to get myself into the “one day at a time” frame of mind because I have to be realistic here I mean I cant expect to come out of the gym after one hour on one day and have Abs. Rome wasn’t built in a day. I know it’s gonna be a loooong and hard fight ahead of my to lose at least 20lbs. I just want a trim and fit body - a flat tummy, firm thighs and arms. I don’r need to come out looking like Im on steroids, and I really dont wanna look like Im Anarexic or Bulimic. I want to go out in my mini’s and not have to tuck in my tummy (lord knows that is HARD WORK!)
And I know gyming is only a third of the battle, I also have to eat well. I have been reading up on the Eat five times a day “diet” – My mommy and Shakira told me about it so you know I had to do further research. Here’s what I found:
**How works eating 5 times a day?**
First: You speed up your metabolism.
Second: When you eat regularly your body doesn’t feel any need to store “food” in secret places (abs, buttocks and hips) for future usage – your body burns everything and even more!
Third: When you eat small 5 portions a day you never experience stomach bloating.
**Rules for eating 5 times a day**
- Eat every 2 or 3 hours. Never stay 6 hours without eating and after that to eat 2 times every 30 minutes. Try to divide day in 5 equal time intervals.
- First week make check list and write every time you eat.
- Practice to eat 1 protein or 1 carb in every meal.
- Drink water. This will make to go to toilet often and you will throw away your body’s “garbage”.
- Workout 3-5 times per week.
Shoot, I have NO PROBLEM eating 5 times a day – its the eating healthy part that gets me.
*…Sigh*Tomorrow I’ll be heading in to my tentative gym of choice for a tour and consultation. Hope to start soon and shed the summer weight BEFORE X-MAS! Lol. Thats another season I am dreading very much… *side eye*
Fantasia – Baby Mama
“All women become like their mothers. That is their tragedy. No man does. That’s his.” - Oscar Wilde, The Importance of Being Earnest, 1895
HAPPY MOTHER’s DAY to all the Mommies out there!
And OF COURSE, Happy Mother’s Day to My Mommy! The BESSSSTTT Mommy in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD!
I think I speak for most, if not all, mature females when I say that we all at some point in our lives dreamt of having kids. Some of us eventually do end up fulfilling that dream, others grow out of it and chose not to, and some are just cannot have kids for reason beyond their control.
Personally, I am too young for such a huge responsibility. Actually let me rephrase that, it’s not that I am too young (at least not age wise, I’m 20 but I don’t believe in age!) it’s just that I am not ready, not mature enough. I am not ready financially, emotionally, mentally ready, if you know what I mean.
Some people opt out of it because of the pattern that they’ve seen in their own family lives (divorce damage on kids, single parent family woes etc.) and other chose not to because they’ve had bad run ins with younger relatives or random mischievous kids (I know what that can be like).
I was raised in a single parent family for nearly all of my life, so I know how that may turn us off of wanting to raise a kid or kids on our own (I’m talking to my female readers here). But that’s not my story.
And TRUST me! I know how crazy troublesome kids can be. I have experienced that craziness first hand. I have had moments where I felt like picking up a rude and mischievous kid and wanted to shake the living daylights out of him/her until her was straight and respectful as an arrow. Lord knows I have sometime wants to beat my sibling with a belt. But that’s not my story.
You wanna know what I’m really scared of?
As I have mentioned before a single parent family was all I have known for most of my life, My mother has done everything for my siblings and I. She works very hard to provide for us, and she tries very hard to make sure that she keeps us in check when we went off the straight and narrow sometimes. She’s molded us, and taugh us so much. She didn’t have the best mother-daughter relationship with her mother when she was growing up and I think that was her main motivation for wanting to keeps us close and working so hard to make sure that we never wanted for much. That and the fact that she wants only the best for us in the future in a world that has so many opportunities both to do good and to do bad. She has instilled in us a sense of right and wrong, and she taught us that hard work pays off. She is the bestest example for us. I mean, I could go on and on about her (I think I have enough written up about her on my blog that I can write a book, heck two books!).
What I’m trying to explain to you guys is that, my mother is all of that and more so much so that I am scared that I will never match up to her. I am scared that is one day I have kids, I would not be able to be as good a mother to them as she is to my siblings and I. I am worried that I won’t have her smarts – book and “street” (for lack of a better word). She is so incredible. And whenever, I think of all that she has accomplished and done I think to myself “WOW! Zindzi, how are you ever gonna match up to this, be this good, or pay her back?”. Will I ever be able to be that good. I mean, I know I have to do things my way, at the end of the day. But I don’t want to do any of it wrong nor do I want to disappoint her. Nor do I want to spoil my kids’ futures or their lives. I want to ensure that I can provide for my children what my mother has provided for me and my siblings.
What if I never have the patience to teach them their ABCs and 123s? Will that develop in time? What if I become too busy for my own kids?
TBTH, I do not care whether I end up divorced or man-less or single! As long as I have my kids and I can give them everything they need and more, I will be A-OK. Yes, it will get rough, sometimes I may need help but I am a woman birthed by a woman who can think on her feet like she’d been planning for months, I know will make it through regardless. And I am happy to note that 1,000,000 crazy kids couldn’t turn me off my dream of one day having kids even if they tried!
Soooo….You learnt something about Ms.Zindzi today huh? Now tell me, What are you afraid of?
*****I’M GOING TO L.A. BABYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!*****
Forgive me if I haven’t come down from my L.A. high, I’ll probably be this way for a very looong time – GET USED TO IT.
The countdown is ooooon ppl! In a matter of days I’ll be touching down at LAX looking fab, feel fab, and having a merry time with my Mother. (LOVE YOU MOMMY!) – I swear I owe my life to her; she keeps me humble (not that I’m displaying that in this entry but I am most times), she keeps me sane, and happy, and always always ALWAYS teaches me never to take the many luxuries of my family’s and my life for granted. Thanks Mommy!
I have a few bits and bobs to do before I speed off on a jet plane to California. I gots to do my nails, my hair, my brows, and my lashes. Yeah yeah, I know I vowed not to get my lashes done again, but I wanna look niiiiice for the event. I dont usually get this glamed up. But I gots to, its L.A ppl. – BEVERLY Hills to be specific.
I checked out the hotel Momma and I are gonna be staying at, and I AM MOST IMPRESSED! Can you say ‘Celeb Status’ babbbbbyyyyyyy? My ‘Drama Queen’ persona will be in full effect – LOL! Make-up will be work ALL-DAY, EVERYDAY. I’m going ALL out for this trip. Heels most of the time, Big sunglasses on as often as possible, handbag JUST RIGHT! Diva mode for L.A ppl…
Mommy, we’re soooooo gonna have FUUUUUN together.
Queue Cyndi Lauper - ‘Girls Just Wanna Have Fun’
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