HAIR: Check!...Had to make sure my hairr was on point before I made my way to Daddy Johnnie's house.
JACKET: Tight! I hate the way I'm posed in this pic, but I had to show off my jacket.
MALACHI (brother) and I
MALACHI and IYA (My cousin): He couldn't get over the DS he got for Xmas.
ME AND THE KIDDIES
THE PRINCESSES: Iya and I
Princess Iya & Princess Zindzi
Aunty E and I
DADDY JOHNNIE
FAMILY AT THE XMAS DINNER TABLE
A lot of us ladies are open with our friends and family about the things we think we should be open about, I mean after all they are our family and our friends. We talk about many things that we probably would not talk about with a stranger or an acquaintance, and that’s natural. However, there are certain things that we, as women (and as humans), just like to keep to ourselves. Especially as it relates to our intimate relationships or any other aspect of our personal lives.
Maintaining the mystery gives people a chance to focus on you as a friend, as a business-woman, as a writer etc. I mean, really, who calls my phone and who I see, or who I go out with, or who I date, or where I go, is no one’s business but mine. Yes, on occasions I may open up to talk about it but only if I WANT TO. I pick and chose who I talk to and what I talk to them about and that is how I want things to be. Call me selfish but at the end of the day, no one should EXPECT me to tell them anything. I’m not just speaking for me, this can apply to anyone.
Like I have said before, I am open but I am very private at the same time. I try to keep it balanced. I think a healthy balance is always good.
It’s really silly, I think, when people especially girls (and I mean GIRLS) expect you to always tell them things. Life really shouldn’t be like that, a bit of mystery is good. And I’m not just dishing this out, I actually respect other’s privacy just the same. I have close female-friends, and there are just certain things we have never spoken about and probably never will. Sometimes its event the most obvious things that we’re not even trying to hide that we don’t talk about. If I were with Titi or Sharon and their phone rang, as long as the phone conversation did not result in them getting angry or crying, I would never think to ask them ‘Who was that?’ because I am VERY MUCH AWARE that that is none of my business and if they want me to know, they would openly say.
Privacy is instrumental to keeping our lives solid and it’s important for maintaining our sanity. So I’m suggesting that we keep a healthy balance ladies, I know the guys won’t have much of a problem because they aren’t as emotional as GIRLS can be.
xoxo, Ms.Zindzi.
This one is especially for the lovely people I will be leaving behind on Tuesday when I head back to the UK. I spent 16 days here, to be exact and not even a day was wasted. In fact, I’ve been on my toes for most of it that I still haven’t gotten a chance to see a lot of the important people. But never mind, I still have one more day to catch up with the rest I haven’t seen yet. I’ve been here before but it never gets easier leaving the better parts of my life behind. I’m so gonna miss my Mommy, and my baby brother and baby sister. Everyday we’re together I see bits of me in them. When I was their age I did the same things they are doing now. And that makes it all the more harder to stop thinking about all the important parts of their growth and development that I’ll be missing while I’m away. And my mommy’s my back bone and my right arm, and I miss not having her around like I used to.
I still cry all the time, and I’m sure that I am gonna cry like a baby on Tuesday – just as I did tonight. …Sigh! My Ken-Ken, I’m soooo gonna miss you. I swear there’s no one who knows me as well as you do. Others have tried, are trying, will try but have never and will never come close. I love you Mr.! The feeling Is bitter sweet and as I said, it never gets any easier. One Tuesday I have an 8 + hour journey and work right after.
…Sigh!! Until next time St. Lucia…Love you!
Xoxo, Ms. Zindzi
I’m angry!!!! You would be too if you woke up from sleep at damn near 8:00am to hear what I just did.
I did NOT temporarily trade the unpredictable weather for fun in the sun so that YOU (and you know who you are just like I KNOW you’re reading) could stress and aggravate me, and have the most untrue things to say about me to your friends.
Here’s a tip: You’re trying to get people against me, huh? How about trying it on people who don’t already know your weak-ass game and who no longer feels sorry for you!
Cut the played-out ‘damsel-in-distress’ act, the ‘poor-me-one’ gimmick and the jealous game, I’m not having it. And to be honest, your friends think it’s immature. Oh hold on, maybe if you were good to your friends and not tryna mess with their minds they’d tell you so themselves!
What happened to you? You’ve become the enemy of my progress, the rain on my parade, the salt in my vibes, the pooper at my party. What happened? Why so bitter all the time? Can’t you just see me happy and be happy for me? Do you ALWAYS have to criticise everything I do, every move I make and make yourself look small & unimportant (if you haven’t realised by now, that’s exactly what you’re doing).
And what’s up with saying one thing to me and expecting me to do something else? Or saying one thing to your friends and doing something else? When you go on like this, you make life difficult for your friends to trust you and believe anything you say.
I’ve got news for you – someone else wouldn’t be as merciful as I’ve been.
Anyway, try your best not to piss me off anymore than you already have.
Time to close the curtains on your show, very entertaining!! Well not really, just had to go all Rihanna on your ass!
Now go ahead, comment!
Ms. Zindzi is fired up!
There is no escaping life’s toils- remember the words ‘you can run but you cant hide’? ‘What has missed us hasn’t necessarily passed us’? And ‘there’s a first time for everything’? Well, for some troubles may be short lived for others life may seem life a nightmare that just won’t end. Some people even have things worst, their situation may be short lived but constantly repetitive. I am not making reference to situations that are trivial or some how called upon ourselves. I’m talking about a birth defect, being a target of misery, being hated for NO REASON what so ever, being wronged by someone we probably never thought was capable of such.
Anyway, enough with the definition. My question to you is does it mean that God doesn’t love us or loves us any less than the next man if we are born blind, deaf or dumb, are subject to mockery and ridicule, are suffering multiple emotional blows? Does it really?
Personally, I know that everything in my life serves a purpose. It may be hard at first to realize this purpose but there is one, I TRUST THAT. It just takes a little time sometimes. Which brings me back to my piece on Optimism, sometimes we’re too busy and caught up in moping around about the tragedy behind door A that we fail to realize that door B has opened wide with opportunities for us. No one, and certainly not God, promised that life was going to be easy for any of us (the blind, the deaf, the crippled, the weak, the ridiculed, the well, the healthy etc.). All that is indeed promised is that we will be granted the patience and the endurance to cope, to get by, to get through every obstacle, every rough patch, and every mountain.
That being said, I’m sure there is no doubt in your mind as to my stance. But just for reassurance sake- Absolutely no hurdle- no matter how big or small- is an indication of how much God loves us or whether he loves us at all. In situations like these it is important to remember that God gives us Trials and the devil gives us Temptations. God is trying our patience but the devil is trying to get us to quit and give up hope. Another thing we should bare in mind that we hear all too often ‘God will never give us anything to great for our aptitude.’
So if ever there comes a time when you are ready to doubt your God’s love then know it’s just another temptation from the devil. He is only trying to make you weak and to lower you into his deviant ways. The smartest thing to do is to talk to your God. My granny used to tell me that God is my friend; talk to him just as I would talk to any other friend, there is no need for unnecessary formalities.
Here’s a sample from a religious song ‘Farther Along’ that exemplifies my point to a T:
“Tempted and tried we’re oft’ made to wonder
Why it should be thus all the day long
While there are others living about us
Never more rested, going along
Farther along we’ll know more about it
Farther along we’ll understand why
Cheer up my brother live in the sunshine
We’ll understand it all by and by”
God loves him and her, you and I and there isn’t two ways about it.
xoxo…Blessings!
Friendships have the same power and influence over your life as family relationships, sometimes even more. Close friendships have an intimacy about them that allows each person to share their lives and secrets. We learn and grow from friendships just as we do from relationships within families and those with lovers.
We learn about friendships in childhood, to trust, to love, to share, to care. If you can maintain good friendships at that point in your life, you will generally follow the same patterns throughout your life, as our issues keep us consistent in how we behave.
Sometimes you meet someone and there is a special connection from the onset. Like my friend Chari and I, I think with us the connection was instant. As soon as we got to seeing each other more at College, the connection was instant.
It is a often a recognition on the soul level. Your frequencies match, you feel a link or special bond, and you want to spend more time together. This does not necessarily reflect a romantic relationship, though one could develop in time, if it is meant to be part of the experience. With romance, it can’t be one sided. Either both people want it, or it won’t work.
The world is in an escalating state of flux and change, reflected in our friendships, and time available to be spent with others is becoming more and more limited. It is often not easy to maintain full time friendships with people. Technology helps us bridge the time gap, if only to say, “Hello.”
Sometimes our friends will welcome our company and exhibit loyalty towards us, often to the point of unselfishness. Our tastes are usually similar but may converge, its only natural. I like mutually helping behavior. I think its only right that if Im your friend I help you and vice cersa. I mean exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship etc.
A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them….Think about it for a minute.
WOOOOOHHOOOOOO! Libérer enfin (Free at last)!
Exams are all finally over! I’m done with it! FINALLY! I have been waiting for this for too long now! Felt like forever. Right about now the red wine have me feeling, as we C’bean people would say, bazodee!
It feels Goooooooood to be me!
The past 2 months of my life were literally like an emotional roller coaster ride- from heaven to hell and back! I never thought that within such a short space of time I could go through so much! I went from losing hair and sleep over exams to making summer plans, to laughter to anger, from too much to all this! Lol. But HEY, that was all part of my quest for Happiness and Success, so no complaints here!
I visited the Bordelais Correctional Facility here in St. Lucia, sometime ago and it was truly an eye opener- t’was a very emotional trip indeed. I got this eerie kind of feeling on the ride to and just before entering the prison. Let me tell you, if you’ve never paid any mind to the adage ‘Never judge a book by its cover’, after such a visit there’s no question that you will live & die by it! The prisoners were of all colours & creeds. They had no privacy, they shower in the open, had to eat just about the same thing everyday, had a curfew and all. I mean, they lived their lives around a strict timetable. It’s disturbing just thinking about it so imagine what it would be like actually living it. When I left the institution, I saw everything and everyone around me in a different light. In fact, I still do. I felt like everyone walking around me could be next – the next criminal, maybe even the next victim. I felt dead yet alive, felt like I saw it all yet there’s so much to know. I’m telling you, Gyptian said ‘prison ain’t a bed of roses’ and he wasn’t lying. People, be smart and make the right choices- STOP and THINK before you ACT!
Anyway, moving right along to finer things!
The ball that I have been anticipating for so long has been cancelled. I’m definitely disappointed. But Oh well, I’ll still wear my dress in the house if I have to. I did not spend my money on a sexy dress for it to go to waste! Or just maybe some lucky fellow may take me out to dinner, hmmmmm! There’s no telling what could happen, heehee!
Have you guys been looking at Lifetime’s new series, ArmyWives? Well you really should! I really like it, and I’m not one to look at those dramatic series like Desperate Housewives and Grey Anatomy etc. so if it’s good enough for me, I’m pretty sure you may like it too.
It’s going to be one fun-filled summer! Lauly I can’t wait to see you!! Hurry up and come! Lol! There’s Lucian Mas on again and then if all goes well I should be off on vacation. Ain’t nothing quite like a good vacation!! I can’t wait to catch up with my old friends and of course, family. Everytime I travel I have a motto. So this time around I have chosen “Meeting new friends and embracing old ones!” I am also looking forward to getting away from beloved family for a while. I need the time to grow and reflect. And SHOP! My favourite thing about vacation time is the SHOPPING! I think I need to join SA (Shoppers Anonymous), what you think? LOL! Everytime I get on a plane, bet your bottom dollar that when reach my destination I’ll buy at least one item apart from food and beverages. Lol.
I’m really looking forward to getting out of the house again just to socialise. I most definitely miss that. The beach will be seeing me a whole lot this summer. I’m in dire need of a tan (or so I’ve been told). I have to try to get something done to the hair this weekend because it is in a mess! I feel the need for change one again.
J’habite admirablement! This summer I plan to frustrate the hell out of the malicious people by living heavenly!
Special thanks to: My family, my friends, my entire SALCC…Here’s to 2 years! Hip Hip Hooray! And remember: POSITIVE VIBES is a CIRCLE the is NO END!
And my summer starts…..NOW!
Positive Vibes
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