She asked:

It doesn’t help that this weekend is celebrating LOVE and reminding me that I am still single.

Good news (if you can call it that):  I finally got the message that he didn’t want me anymore despite me telling him I would stick by him through his job loss, so I was forced to do the not calling thing.  Though he never asked for space, his actions did…

That was at the end of January, but I think of this man every day.  Our relationship was left so unresolved that it makes me sad to think that I never got closure.  It’s corny, but true.

Trust me… I have been trying to stay busy (working 24/7), working out more, and going to professional events, etc.  I am even looking into going to grad school.  I have even tried to scope the scene for someone new, but no one compares to this guy.  The way things ended was crappy, but the 6 months prior to that were beautiful… by far the best relationship I have ever been in.

Keeping busy isn’t helping.  Any time I get “down time” I think of him.  What should I do?

I Answered:

It sounds like You’re doing all those other things just to avoid thinking about him, but its pointless trying to run from the thought of him. What you need to do is STOP thinking about him, not run from the thoughts.

What you need is closure – get to the bottom of the real issue. “Why Am I Thinking about Him None Stop?”

Why not call him? Arrange to meet so you guys can talk, nothing intimate or romantic. Just woman to man. Two mature adults sorting through their issues. He owes you that much. Let him know just how you’re feeling; Not in hopes of patching things up, but in hopes that he could explain how he’s feeling in more depth i.e. why did he suddenly decide he didn’t want you anymore.

I think you owes it to yourself to find out why he decided to end things like this.

Then and only then will you feel the confidence you need to move forward and onward with your life.

*Sugars*