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I gotta share this with you guys…
I just got out of my sister’s photo album on FB, where she posted a picture of our father and a picture of me with our younger brother. It was sort of comforting to see the pics there because for some reason I always felt like we weren’t her favourite people so seeing the pics made my heart smile. But my smile quickly turned to a frown. I need not say why, just keep reading.
Ladies, and gents too, if your parent (be it mother or father…maybe even both) is absent in your life for whatever reason, fostering negative thoughts won’t help or change anything. It will only harm you and your sanity. Your Father will ALWAYS BE YOUR FATHER and your mother will ALWAYS BE YOUR MOTHER, regardless of how many time he/she calls or doesn’t call and regardless of how many times you see him/her, or do not see him/her. And your kids will have to call him Grand-Dad and her Grand-Ma.
Whenever a hateful thought harvests in your mind about your mother or your father, just remember that.
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/ February 13, 2010You’re absolutely right and I think you really did write this with me in mind
I try to forget the past and forget all the birthdays he missed and the ‘I-love-you’s’ I never got and after all this time I’m still trying and can’t just wash those memories away. I try to be positive and not harbor any bad feelings toward him but I guess I’m not as strong as I should be. Yes he will always be your dad and nothing can change that but some of us can’t seem to get rid of the anger and pain. Hopefully in time I’ll be able to forget everything and smile. Hopefully.
E
/ February 12, 2010Hey Z
I saw the comments as well. It hurt my heart for many reasons but I think your views on things are the right ones. You can’t change who/how he is…you accept the situation or do something about it. He will always be a part of you and a part fo your life. at the risk of getting too personal, I do think that you were blessed to be raised in a better environment than your sister was and it shows in her attitutde toward this side of her family. I don’t blame her or her other side; its an unfortunate situation for all concerned. Anyway, passing through to show some family love as usual…keep your head and heart up and keep making us proud.
~E