Ask Ms.Zindzi: Biased and Judgemental. And I really don’t care!

On March 5, 2009 - Ask Ms.Zindzi, Because That's What They Do...

So I’ve been holding my tongue about this Rihanna and Chris Brown reconciliation thing. But I was over at Billione USA and I left this comment on one of his posts:

“No One was more surprised than I was when I heard that he allegedly beat her up and no one was more shocked than Ms.Zindzi when I say the photo TMZ.com released and even when I heard they got back together, I really dont think there is anyone that was more shocked and disappointed in Rihanna than I was.    Yes, its true – I dont know the details. But the sign (the pic of battered and bruised Rihanna) was all over the media to remind her of what had happeed that night (or whenever) and to me, that’s all the reason she needed not to find herself back with that man (if I may use the word VERY LOOSELY!). I would think that she’d have a lil more sense than that! 

I saw Dr. Phil on ‘The View’ giving his opinion and I wanted to shout ‘EXACTLY! AMEN!’ because I felt as if someone else, apart from my mom and I, saw things in the same light. 

I dont think Domestic Violence should be condoned in anyway, and it really doesnt matter to me what Rihanna did or did not do, and if in fact CB did hit her, he had no right to – regardless of what she did. I think, if in fact she is back with him after he beat her ass up, then she just made a stupid decision and I can only hope that she doesn’t leave their relationship in a body bag (as cold hearted as it sounds!). Many women leave these kinda situations dead or scarred for life.

I know right now I’m being biased, but DA is an issue that I am very passionate about – and I am soooo sooo against it. Like I said I don’t know who was in the wrong, who was in the right, or what started it. But whatever the issue, after an altercation/argument/whatever, Rihanna’s face should not have looked like that. And if CB was the one who actually did that to her, her decision to get back with him is silly!!

She sooooo ruined her chance of becoming a role model to a wider audience of females. She has set such a horrible example for her female fans, and females in general. 

This should have been a pivotal moment for Rihanna – I am most disappointed in her decision!

PS: I’ve always wanted to become an activist or spokesperson for a cause and I think I just found it! – Domestic Violence.

Billione, don’t think I was coming at you or anything. LOL! – I just needed to get that off my chest. So sorry….

xoxo, 
Ms.Zindzi.”

UPDATE!!!:

BIllione said…
“Ms. Zindzi,

thank you for leaving wonderful comments on my blog. You have a wonderful perspective and I love your passion.

I agree with you, there is no excuse. However, his position made it sound as if it is wrong to hit a woman because she is a woman. He even stated that Chris is “able-bodied” and should have ran. 

that to me implies that Rihanna wasn’t able-bodied, suggesting that women are not. 

What he should have said was that you don’t hit women because it is wrong to hit anyone. What type of compassion would we have for Chris is he were the victim and not the alleged aggressor? Probably none. We would have ask “why didn’t you run. Be a man.” 

The truth is, his actions are detestable, but people should be clear that domestic violence is not defined by the gender of the victim but by the circumstances, of which we really do not know.

Thanks, Ms. Zindzi. I love your blog by the way. Peace.”

 

Ms.Zindzi said…
“Your most welcomed.

I definitely agree with you on the point you made ‘People should be clear that domestic violence is not defined by the gender of the victim..’…Oh so true!! I wish a lot more people thought like that.

And Thanks…

xoxo, Ms.Zindzi”

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