Month: April, 2008

"Virtuous Woman" said the BLACK man!

“I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

“I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy.

“The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.

“Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control.

“I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women.

“Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth ‘Babyface’ Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.

“I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your history!

“It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.

“It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery.

“It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise!

“It is because of the black women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them.

“Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women.

“I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?

“I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

“BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children.

“Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you oo not and CANNOT fit the bill.

“No offense taken, none given.

“Signed, Black Royalty”

**SAY IT LOUD I’m BLACK I am PROUD!!**
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Indeed!!

Take from the motion picture, “Evan Almighty”:

“If someone prays for patience, you think God gives them patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prayed for courage, does God give him courage, or does he give him opportunities to be courageous? If someone prayed for the family to be closer, do you think God zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings, or does he give them opportunities to love each other?”

Think about it. MAke it relate to your life and the things you ask God for, and the things you get in return. Really, it does make things a lot clearer and simpler to me. Hope it does just that for you.

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I thank God!

You know whenever I think about how long the blog has been going on and how much I’ve written, even the content that I think about and write, I feel special and blessed. I’m asked from time to time, what do I write about and most times, I can’t even answer. Yet for all its all meaningful to me and the people who read it and I know for a fact that I can help to make at least one person smile or laugh or feel welcomed etc. I think all my thanks belong to God. This is him at work through me. He allows me do what I do and I’m thankful. I welcome him with open arms and I praise him with everything I have cuz this is all possible because of HIM!.

I just felt like sharing that! Happy Sunday ppl :-D

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TGIF

Though of the Day:

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you’ve imagined.”

-Henry David Thoreau.

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God Bless THIS Child – Amen.

I wrote the following piece over a year ago and tonight, while going through my 2006/2007 journal, I found it and I decided to post it up to the blog so you guys can have a read.

There comes a time in our lives when we learn to live and let live, understand that people are who they are, and understand that complications will always arise. But it is also upon us to understand that none of those actions should occur at the expense of our happiness. If you know me well enough you’d know that I appreciate happiness very much. I value my smile, my laughter and all those damn happy moments that cause them…Lol. We also realize that friendships aren’t necessities rather choices. Friendships are relationships that we choose to enter and can opt to exit at anytime. These choices, again, should never be made at the expense of our happiness. As much as friends may add happiness to life, who is to say that without them you can’t be happy? Who is to say that one can’t create his or her own joy? I value friendships. They mean a lot to me. But I refuse to sit sedentary within one which makes me continuously unhappy. I prefer addressing the issues like the mature young woman that I am. If I can’t find a friend who can value maturity in a friendship like I can then I will choose to be ‘friendless’.

I have learnt to embrace every pleasant moment I have experienced. Happiness is something I don’t need handed to me but can create all by my lonesome. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that I prefer being a loner. But if being a loner means that I’ll be happy or away from misery, then sure! Why not?! I am capable of creating ‘my own’, so to speak. Therefore, I am who I am because I, Zindzi R. Henry, chose to mould myself into this magnificent person that I am. Of course I am not saying that I didn’t have the help of all the bumps and hurdles, twists and turns along life’s way. And I know, without a doubt, that my beautiful family and the few friends that I have opted to keep were instrumental. But in my times of void and emptiness I chose and will continue to choose to create my own bliss & enjoyment.

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From my Guardian Angel :-)

“It’s in the Valleys I grow”

It’s in the Valleys I grow
Sometimes life seems hard to bear
Full of sorrow, trouble and woe
It’s then I have to remember
That it’s in the valleys I grow

If I always stayed on the mountain top
And never experienced pain
I would never appreciate God’s Love
And would be living in vain

I have so much to learn
And my growth is very slow
Sometimes I need the mountain tops
But it’s in the valleys I grow

I do not always happen to understand
Why things happen as they do
But I am sure of one thing
My Lord will see me through

My little valleys are nothing
When I picture Christ on the cross
He went through the valley of death
His victory was Satan’s loss

Forgive me Lord for complaining
When I am feeling low
Just give me a gentle reminder
That it’s in the valleys I grow

Continue to strengthen me Lord
And use my life each day
To share your love with others
And help them find their way

Thank you for valleys, Lord
For this one thing I know
The mountain tops are glorious
But, it’s in the valleys I grow

PS: My guardian angel sent this for me on the 3rd of April 2007, she knows herself. I will forever be grateful.

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Just to Vent: Small Minds

Small-minded people never cease to amaze me! I am rather perplexed at the intellectual level (or lack there of) of some people at my university. Can you just imagine that someone, not just any ole someone (or maybe so), a UNIVERSITY STUDENT, made the time, took the time, had the time, to write, not just write, CREATE a gossip page on MySpace?? Why slander the names and characters of others for your own personal enjoyment? What benefit does it really have? No really, I’d like to know…What is this person actually gaining from such immature, senseless and childish actions. HOW SAD IS THAT, HOW SAD IS YOUR LIFE? My guess is, REALLY SAD!! And you know what’s even sadder the reputations it has spoilt in the process. The page hasn’t been made private, I even had a chance to see it, sadly, and I am not at all pleased. What people fail to realise is that no matter how true or false information like that may be, it ALWAYS has its repercussions. It will affect the personal lives and social lives of others. And oh how KARMA is a BITCH! Its disheartening that people will actually stoop to such levels to acquire meaningless fame. How does teh saying go again? Live by the sword, die by the sword..was that it? Or was it What goes around, comes around…hmm?

Not to be bias, there is the other side of the coin – perhaps we can draw reference to another old saying “There’s no smoke without fire”? Anyway, I just needed to vent, because returning to Halls after all the commotion was A LOT to handle!!

Talk about total CHAOS…Bute ppl you’re in my prayers!

Night now… :-)

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